Advice

 

It was great to see some friends, familiar faces and new gorgeous folks this week at Kiss - it is consistently one of the best parties we've ever been to and we always have a great time. As we were walking amongst the playrooms, we said to ourselves, "This is great, but what would make it better?" The answer: TOYS! This as a call for all you ladies and gentlemen to consider spicing up the scene by bringing your favorite toys, and especially your vibrators! We women know that it can sometimes be difficult to orgasm, especially if you have an audience or are playing with a new partner for the first time. Why not stack the deck in your (or your partner's) favor?  If you don't have a toy, we strongly suggest the Mystic Wand, it is light, quiet, powerful and runs on 4 double-A batteries. Don't be afraid of what others will think of it, they won't even notice when they hear all the amazing sounds you are making and remember to ask for everything you want. Finally, if you are sharing your toys with a friend, don't forget to use a condom on it - the Mystic Wand is designed to easily fit a condom over the top and the handle! 

xoxo,

Celeste & Danielle

• Desires - There are many ways to explore your desires with your partner including fantasizing together during sex with each other before coming to the party or each of you writing a description of your hottest Club Kiss fantasy, sharing it with your partner and talking about what makes it particularly hot for you (examples might be: having other people see your erotic connection, feeling desired by more than one person, watching others indulge in their fantasies and pleasures). Everyone goes into these experiences with different needs and desires, the clearer you are about your own and your partner's, the better chance you will get what you are really looking for. You may also just like to check it out the first time and see how it feels. Always remember, there is no pressure to do anything, you get to decide whether you want to participate or just watch the first time and every time!
   
• Boundaries - Boundaries change based your present desires, where you are in your relationship at the moment, and whether or not you have had positive experiences and built trust. For this reason, you should decide what your boundaries will be each time you attend, knowing that sometimes they will be more open, other times more restrictive. Remember, sharing sex with people outside of your relationship is a great way to enhance a relationship, but not a great way to fix it! Decide if you are interested in playing with others or just playing with each other in an environment of open, supportive sexual folks.
   
• Safeword - Choose a word or a gesture (like a tap or a hand signal) that signifies between you and your partner that it is time to take a break from whatever you are doing and talk about what is going on. Remember, if you are responsive and open to each other's needs and feelings your experience at Kiss can be tons of fun and a great enhancement of your relationship. However, if you treat it like your only chance for an experience like this and insist on having no boundaries or safewords, or trying to "do it all" it likely it will end up being the only chance. To make sure you get to play and enjoy without a blowup afterwards, keep connected and communicative throughout the experience!
   
• Safer Sex - If you are interested in playing with others outside of your relationship, discuss what level of risk you are willing to take and what kinds of safer sex precautions you want to take and that you want your partner to take.